I was at book club and about half of the moms had gone.  The ones of us who were left all have gifted kids and some of those kids have some interesting challenges.

So I shared some of Devon’s things that are worrying me.  How he is holding his arm funny lately, paired with the limping he can be quite a sight.  Of course the licking tic is fun too.

First off, sharing this helped the other mom realize that her issue with her daughter wasn’t as big of a deal.  So that is always nice to help others feel better. 

Secondly someone commented that it is nice that I am so calm about it.  I found that interesting in a few different ways. 

I am not always calm about it.  Or actually about Devon.  He has been my biggest source of things to worry about since he was born.  Hence my not worrying about Carson… I was too busy worrying about Devon!  It has been kind of a relief to focus on Carson and not worry so much about Devon.  He is doing really well in school right now and is happy.

What else am I supposed to do?  Me freaking out about it will not help.  I try to stay balanced in my views of who he is.  Allowing him to be Devon with all his interesting quirks and encouraging him to be more normal so he doesn’t get picked on.  So occasionally I try to calmly remind him not to lick his fingers (really I mostly ignore it, because it seems to be something he can’t control).  I have taken him to doctors and have him on some supplements and try to keep his hands clean.  But what else can I do? 

Just love him and try to stay calm.  So I am glad it appears that I am calm about it!